Question: “Who wears the pants in the relationship?” Response: “Dumb question. We are both equal.”
Typically, this response is expressed by someone who has a job and earns an income.
Recently, however, it has become obvious that people who can stay home are also a part of the response above.
What makes this response odd is the insult and aggression that is woven into it.
Although these individuals are willing to stay home, they choose to find it insulting when someone brings the topic up.
Apparently, I’m supposed to feel like a slave because I literally do the same tasks everyone else must do to survive, except I don’t have to wait until I get off work to do them.
Yeah, I know. Shocking.
My husband and I have recently discovered -based on people’s perception of how our family is run- that he is controlling and locks me in a basement, and I’m incapable of doing anything but cook him dinner and clean his underwear.
We were quite amazed at how these people with whom we aren’t intimately intertwined with and who don’t pay our bills, knew all of this and we were utterly oblivious.
The good news is, I’m not actually a slave…
While I glance at my husband as he switches the clean clothes from the washing machine to the dryer, I have something new to chuckle about.
While he includes me in every financial decision, he often pauses to crack a joke about how “it isn’t my place to have an opinion.”
While he continuously encourages me to take a break from “my slave duties” and go out and do anything I’d like while he watches our daughter, I get to choose to stay in and finish those inhumane chores so that we all can go out together at the end of the day.
Honestly. The list goes on, but…
The greatest news is how well our system works because we aren’t insulted by our prescribed labels.
Lastly, if I’m ever asked the question above…
My response will be that my husband does because I don’t really like wearing clothes, and someone has to wear them to go pick up milk from the grocery store.